Why do we begin conversations with new people by asking what they do for a living? Perhaps it’s because I’ve never truly loved my job, or maybe it’s because I feel that my profession doesn’t reflect who I am as a person. I have always found the “what do you do for a living” conversation to be uber annoying. 

We are often quick to ask about someone’s occupation, as if our job is the definitive factor of who we are. Personally, I would much rather discuss what brought me joy recently, my goals for finishing the year strong, or my most prized possession and why it matters to me. These questions hold greater potential for meaningful dialogue. Additionally, I prefer to keep conversations about work confined to the workplace.

I was at a local lounge, sitting at the bar with a football game playing on the big screen. While chit-chatting with the guy next to me, he asked what I do for a living. I paused, trying to come up with a witty reply, but nothing came to mind—I was just sitting there, speechless. We both laughed, and it made me realize I need to think of an answer—something clever and memorable that I can adjust as needed. I have a friend who says she’s a chimney sweeper, and I love that so much!

DDC

Lesson: What do I do for a living? My best. 

Question: What’s a clever reply that says I have my own money, I work to get that money and I do not want to discuss it any further?